I want to give a piece of advice to all parents

Dilo ko tornay se pehly sochain.kuch logo mey bardasht aur sabr ka hosla khatam hojata hai.Wo majbur hojaty hain aur apni jaan khud le lety hain. Pyaar,dosti,maa baap,results, duniya ki har situation mey khud ko strong banaen itnay bary faislay itni jaldi na lain, himmat na harain,umeed rakhain azmaishain sb ki hoti hain apnay rab k agay jhukain Us se sabr mangain hosla mangain aur umeed rakhain. Apni jaan khud lay k apni akhirat bhi barbad na karain dunia mey takleef utha lain Allah apko akhirat mey sabz baghon mey jaga de ga us k badlay. Aur jo log dusron pe zindagi itni tang kar dety hain k wo apni jaan lenay pe majbur hojaty hain un se guzarish hai khuda se darain. Hum insan hain dil bht nazuk cheez hai Kisi ka dil jor dia to aap pe jannat wajib hojaye gi aur agar tor dia to aap k saray aamal zaya aur aap jahanum ki aag mey hon gy. Sab se zada jo case ajkal aa raha hai jis ki waja se bohat se young larky larkiyan suicide kr rhy hain is that unki shaadiyon ki umr hojati hai , koi pasand aa jata hai maa baap ko mana mana k thak jaty hain lekin maa baap bandook le k kharay hojaty hain " ethay nae karani hor jithay marzi kar le" why? Khuda liye insan ko insan treat karain. Main maanti hu ghalat hain ye relationships. Ghalat krty hain wo log jo ye qadm uthaty hain lekin aap ye nobat he kyun anay dety hain k koi ye qadm uthaye? Moka he na dain kisi ko is haal tk na pohnchayen. agar aapko koi pasand hai aur aap pehli bari mey he ja k apny parents ko bataty hain k humy falan banda pasand hai aap un se mil lain plz aur shadi ki baat karain ek insan halal rishta qaim krna chah rha hai to ismy kya burai hai? Agar ghalti kr b li aur relationship chal gaya aapka bacha aa k apko guzarish kr rha hai k meri bht achi understanding hai meri pasand hai main khush rahuga kara do bhai aap. Ye aap ki aulad ki zindagi hai aap apni guzar chukay hain . Agar aap khush dekhna chahty hain apni aulad ko to plz usy uski khushi dain na k uski khushiyon ki qurbani lain us se so called khandan walo ko dikhawaya krne k liye " humne doctor se ki shadi, itny oonchy ghr mey ki" aap k bachay ki zindagi sirf barbad hogi. I know bht se log yahan kehna chahain gy k love marriage ho ya arrange baad mey sb same hojata hai. hojata hoga lekin ek fark rehta hai usy aap badal nae sakty. Zaruri nae k har kisi ka rishta shadi k baad bura he hojata ho. Mostly women say mard badal jaty hain. Aurtain bhi to badal jati hain. Har insan badal jata hai kyun k unki life he badal jati hai. But still bht log hain jinki understanding itni achi hoti bond itni strong hoti hai k wo bari se bari larai ko solve krna janty hain. Ye apki aulad ki zindagi ka sawal hai khudara unhy puri zindagi k liye kisi aisy insan k sath na bandhain jisko wo janty bhi nae.Kaisi zid hai?Apka bacha aap se khushi maang rha hai apni. Coming back to the point this is so important kab smjhain gy aap? Tab jab is trha janazy agay pary hon gy? Us waqt ronay ka haq nahi hai aapko. Kyun k ye zindagi ye jaan aap ne he li hai. .kitni choti si baat hai kisi ko uski khushi de dena. Apko abhi lag raha hai k apka faisla sahi hai maa baap ghalat nae hoty wo hamesha sahi hoty hain? Kyun? Wo b to insan hain unse bhi to ghalti ho sakti hai. Kya pata apka faisla ap ki aulad k liye baad mey bura sabit ho. I have seen so many examples maa baap ne shadiyan kara di ghar barbad kar diye aur us k baad un k pas siwaye pachtaway k kuch nae hota. Dour badal gaya hai. Ab wo purana dour nae rha jismey aap log jeety hain. Apki aulad b apnay liye acha he chahti hai . Kisi b rishty mey mohabbat ka hona bht zaruri hai. Agar apka bacha kisi ko samjhta hai aur itna bara faisla le sakta hai k wo khush rahy ga to uska faisla maan lain agr na reh saka to bhi pachtaye ga wo , aap nahi . kam az kam aap sakoon se mar sakain gy kyun k aap ne kisi k sath ziadti nae ki. Lekin kya ye sahi hai? Apni zindagi guzaar li ab apki jawan aulad agar pasand ka izhar kar de to baghair kisi se milay baghair dekhy usy reject krna? Tohmatain lagana? Us k kirdaar pe baat krna? Kya zaib deta hai kisi ki beti ya bety ya kisi b insan pe keechar uchalna usy janay baghair? Kya pata wo apki kitni izzat karta ho? Kya aap jo apni zid se apni aulad ko itni takleef de rhy k wo kisi trf ka nae rha na apna gham apko bata sakta hai ku k aap sunty he kahan hain ? Kal ko jb wo suicide kry ga kya tb ehsas hoga ? Khudara dil na torain kisi ka bhi, kisi ko is haal tk na pohanchayen , de dain uski khushi aap khud b khush hon gy.